Marcie Meredith Photography
Choosing the girls you want by your side before and after your wedding can be stress inducing! So, do a big yoga inhale/exhale, grab yourself a fruity drink (because you’re doing hard things, okay!?), and let us help!
We are huge advocates of lists and their organizational properties. So make one! Include any names that come to mind right off the bat. We’ve made our own list of helpful tips if you can’t decide whether or not to ask that girl friend from high school you haven’t spoken to since graduation.
1. Family is a must
Definitely include family members. Your sisters, the groom’s sisters, and sisters-in-law about covers it. Even if you might not know your fiancé’s sister very well, include her to ensure your next family reunion is a harmonious one.
2. BFFs only
Make sure you actually like the girls you are asking! Don’t feel obligated to include anyone because they either a) invited you to be a bridesmaid at their wedding, b) were one of your best friends from high school but the two of you haven’t really kept in touch or c) are close with your best friends.
3. Can they handle the job?
And, on that note, make sure you trust them with the responsibility that comes with being a bridesmaid. Weddings are a lot of work and brides can’t do everything themselves! Make sure the girls you ask will be there, rain or shine, for the things you need them for.
4. The more the merrier, right?
Decide how big or small you want your wedding party to be. Anything over ten bridesmaids is probably pushing it. Once you figure out you don’t want more than six then don’t ask more than six girls!
5. Even Stevens
If you like even numbers then you could ask the same amount of groomsmen and bridesmaids. This way you’re stuck to a specific number and adding another girl would mean having to find another guy. On the other hand, it really doesn’t matter if you have the same amount of girls and guys in the wedding party! It’s not something worth stressing over.
6. No negative Nancys
Here’s an important tip: make sure the girls you ask are supportive of your marriage! The girls you ask to stand by you on one of the most important days of your life should be 100% happy about how happy your future husband makes you.
Remember that your bridesmaids should consist of the ladies in your life that mean the most to you. If you can see yourself as close to them as you are now in 10 or 15 years then you have your answer!